Chau is the original New York City stoop kid who cut her teeth hanging out in Union Square, ate soup dumplings in Chinatown and explored this great city by train, foot and everything in between.
One day, 40 years down the line, you’ll be telling your grandchildren the romantic story about how you met your partner because you swiped right on their picture with a dog. The kids will say, “Wow Grandpa/ma. That’s so much work. Nowadays, we just 3D print our romantic partners using only organic, ethically sourced nut milk and Apple iPhone XXV parts”. But I digress.
While there is nothing wrong with being on the apps (duh, everyone’s on them), EVERYTHING is wrong with modern dating. People swipe right and left faster than they can blink. Witty text banter that never amounts to a real date. Ghosting! The flakiness of dates. Catfishing of pictures. It seems that the more people are on the apps, the less they are meeting (connecting) in real life.
A few months ago, after hearing so many of our friends complain about dating online, we decided to write an article about the black hole of dating in NYC. If you missed it, the article was called “The All-Encompassing Guide to Love, Sex and Dating in NYC”.
We also decided to throw our own party. “A Friend of a Friend party aka A Party for Single People Who Hate Online Dating But Love to Party” where we’d invite all of our single friends, and have them invite their single friends and meet together in real life, without any pressure. No ghosting, no flaking, no catfishing in a place where everyone could meet organically, with their friends. Throughout the party, we had a blast connecting everyone. Several dates, sparks, and corner make out sessions took place. It was a great time and we’re doing it again October 24th. (EDIT: This event has ended, but you can check out our upcoming events HERE.)
Take a look at the pics below and tag yourselves.
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Let’s face it single people of NYC, a lot of you are bad with dating.
It’s not that you’re completely bad at dating, per se. Everyone is bad at making complete strangers fall in love with them within a three-hour window. It’s that everyone is bad at planning dates. The line is hella fine between “fun and adventurous” and “holy hell I’m trapped with this person for how many more hours”?
We’re here to tell you that “grabbing a drink” is lame and devoid of effort! How will you stand out against the dozens of others who have taken or are taking your potential mate out for “drinks”? Sure, you are different and once they meet you they’ll realize that, but in order to win the game, you’ve got to wow them before the date. Get creative! Dating should be FUN! Both for them AND you!
Ultimately, if you find that they’re not down for a fun date, then that might be a red flag that they’re not a fun time. And no one wants to date a wet blanket.
Here are a few ideas that are sure to be a great night (and not be too hard on your wallet). PS – Many of them involve drinking, but these are still fun without. Take care of your liver, yo.
DINNER, GAMES & LIVE JAZZ IN THE WEST VILLAGE
Photo by Uncle Chop Chop
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Asian Bites at the Restaurant Named after Australia’s Most Notorious Murderer “Uncle Chop Chop”
Yo. Murder?! What? I know, but first off, some people are totally into murder docs so there’s that. But also, Uncle Chop Chop is a new restaurant run by two Aussie brothers who wanted to recreate their favorite Asian Fusion foods from back home. The restaurant is super cute, and hidden on Cornelia Street so it will definitely impress your date that you know of such a dope, hidden spot. With dishes like “Dumplings with Rick and Morty Szechuan Sauce” and “Balinese Shredded Roast Duck” this is going to be perfect for conversation starting!
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Lowkey Games & Jazz at Fat Cat
Oh Fat Cat. It’s the most random collection of people and activities in NYC. After dinner, come here for a few fun games! The subterranean bar offers games like ping pong, pool, shuffleboard, and Chess BUT also, live music every night! Just know there’s a $3 cash entry.
Photo via Big Gay Ice Cream Shop
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Late Night Sweets at the Big Gay Ice Cream Shop
After a long night of eating, drinking and playing, top it off with some sweets at the Big Gay Ice Cream Shop, and just walking distance from the West 4th train station.
EAST VILLAGE DINNER AND A SHOW
Photo via Timeout by Paul Wagtuoicz
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Transport Yourselves to Thailand at SomTum Der
Start with dinner at Michelin rated & affordable Thai restaurant Som Tum Der that offers regional Siam food. It’s totally different than traditional Thai restaurants in the city, so you’ll be sure to impress a date with the variety of food.
Then, Catch an Improv comedy show at UCB Theatre!!!
The Amy Poehler founded Upright Citizen’s Brigade is NYC’s answer to affordable, improv comedy. We’ll be totally real with you – improv can be a hit or miss, but catch a great team here and you’ll be left wondering how the hell anyone can be so funny. With cheap tickets (generally, less than $20 bucks a show) and cheap beer, this is a fun one to try with a date.
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Make out session at Lovers of Today
Lovers Of Today is a hidden little speakeasy that is prime for making out. It’s intimate, dark with dope cocktails and recessed seating. It’s the perfect place to make your move.
SECRET GARDEN GETAWAY IN DUMBO, BROOKLYN
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Backyard Retreat at Gran Electrica
Maybe it’s the jaded New Yorker within me, but there’s almost no better thrill in my life than walking by an obscenely long line and knowing that A. There’s no way in HELL that I am waiting and B. There’s always, always a place that is less popular within walking vicinity that is 10x better than the touristy BS.
That my friends, is Gran Electrica. This Mexican restaurant is directly around the corner from Grimaldis and is a total hidden gem. The tacos are fire and there’s a gorgeous, extremely romantic backyard with lights hidden from the rest of DUMBO that feels like a total escape.
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Sunset Picnic at The Vale at Pier 1 / Brooklyn Bridge Park
TO THE LEFT, TO THE LEFT. Walk all the way to the left on Pier 1! Pass the tourists, down, down, down all the way to the left. There are chairs and benches but when you get to the middle of the pavilion, there is a little grass section where you can throw down a blanket, have some wine and cheese and break out the bottle of Rose to see the sunset.
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NYC WATER TAXI
The East River Water Taxi is one of the best ways to get around the city in the summertime. Instead of taking the train back to the city from DUMBO, settle for a romantic boat ride (for $2.75, holla).
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New York City has historically been known for its fast-paced, no bullshit personality, from the workplace to the city streets, and unfortunately, the dating world. As the world of online dating gets more and more perplexing (apparently there’s a thing called ZOMBIE-ing now), it seems the world of meeting people IN-REAL-LIFE is fewer and far between.
We decided to take the reins in our hands and showcase our top single friends in NYC. Here are our picks, you can meet them and other hot singles at our Party for Single People Who Hate Online Dating But Love to Party Tonight, Friday 20th at 730PM. (EDIT: This event has passed. Lookout for upcoming events HERE.)
She’s the type you take out for dinner and spontaneously bar hop across town till 3 AM laughing your ass off with and then take home for Sunday brunch with your mom. Bubbly and quite possibly one of the most popular people you’ll meet, she gets along with everyone, and you’ll have a much more fun life because of her.
We promise he’s not as douchey as he looks. His words, not ours. A super talented photographer/videographer/rapper/creator whose special skill is reciting any word backward immediately, you will NEVER be bored. Ever. Ever. Ever. Plus, if you’re a model/influencer we can guarantee he’ll be the photographer boyfriend catching the dopest shots (though he’d probably be getting himself in those shots as well). #couplegoals
“Cute Face, Tiny Waist, Big Ass Personality”. If you’re a fan of The Office, Parks and Rec or anything comedy related, Sandy is your girl. She is the queen of witty banter and sass, so make sure you’re able to keep up with her quips. An adventurous soul who’s incredibly loyal, once you’re in her inner circle you’ll be spoiled with one of the most thoughtful people in the world. As a beauty guru, stylist, and gorgeous queen you guys better holler quick before she gets taken off the market.
This full-time comedian and former investment banker (don’t worry, he’ll still take you on some nice dinners) is all of the fun minus the Sperry wearing frat personality of typical finance bros. Best of all, he’s a family man (his mom comes to his comedy shows and is beloved by the whole audience <3) is sweet, woke and fun to boot. You’ll spend your nights laughing over stand up bits and probably exploring some new restaurant in Queens somewhere.
Just a year into NYC, this West Coast native is easily mistaken for a native New Yorker. She’s sassy and quick, but she’s got a heart of gold once you’re in her circle. Most nights will be spent trying to discover the best Ramen in town and fawning over puppies in the street. Regardless, you’ll spend your nights with bellyaches of laughter and Ramen.
This Southern gent is only a few months into NYC, so ladies you better sink your claws into him before he gets jaded like the rest of us. He says things like, “thanks” and holds the door open for you, so you know how rare that is in this city. In any case, Jimmy is a former startup founder who made the leap to NYC earlier this summer and is on the hunt to explore the city as much as possible. Who’s looking to show him around?
You know that cooler friend that skydives, vacations in Positano and seems to have their life together MUCH more than you? That’s Sachin. A full-time lawyer and comedian, he’s the type that will charm your parents with jokes at the dinner table, and then impress them with his big-time adult job where he once even helped to exonerate an innocent man who was jailed for 10+ years (we think Kim Kardashian was inspired by him). He’s fun, charming and over 6 feet tall. Woo!
This thirst trap, sorry, we mean MODEL is probably the only good thing to come out of New Jersey (except for MTV’s Jersey Shore but we’re not trying to put the two in the same boat). A producer, model, and amateur photographer, Doug is super cultured and loves to travel and meet new people (even one time playing a game of Leapfrog in Salamanca, Spain). This arm candy is one that you’ll be dying to show off.
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The first thing 28-year-old fashion photographer Lenne Chai wants you to know about Singapore is that “Crazy Rich Asians” was wayyyy off.
“Don’t get me wrong, the film was fantastic and will go into history books as phenomenal, but when you’re thinking about how Singaporean people look…well, we’re a bit more colorful than that”.
She is New York City’s latest crop of talented creatives who’ve risked it all to “make it” here. She’s a soft-spoken, cutesy Singaporean with a trendier than thou style and an equally exuberant portfolio of fashion, beauty, and style photography. Her photos are the stuff that teen girls model their gram’s after and big brands emulate when they’re trying to “relate” to the modern woman.
Photo by Marisse Caine
At the ripe age of 28, Lenne’s dreamy photography has already graced the covers of Allure, Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, InStyle, H&M and Shiseido. Despite a spirited success story in Singapore and Japan, Lenne still left it all behind for a chance to live and work in New York City where she’s starting again from scratch. We sat down with Lenne to learn exactly how she got her start, and what it is that makes New York City the center of creativity for the world.
STARTED FROM THE TOP, NOW WE HERE
Lenne may be new to the New York scene (she moved here about a year ago), but chances are you may have seen her work. Most recently, her shoot with Gen Z’s latest phenomena—CG created “influencers” posing as real, people for Instagram, Lil Miquela (1.5 million followers) made the cover of L’officiel Magazine. By the way, when asked about how she was able to photograph a digital avatar…Lenne’s lips were ostentatiously sealed.
Lil Miquela the “digital avatar Instagram Influencer”
But before Lenne was the effervescent photographer sitting in front of me, she was a young intern at a newspaper with a humble fashion blog in Singapore with only dreams of visiting New York. “I was young, naive and had no idea what I was doing,” Lenne says. “I was fired almost three times from my internship and fashion felt so far away and unattainable”.
Her flair for capturing dreamy landscapes and women
At the age of 22, right on the heels of a photo internship with The Straits Times (Singapore’s largest English speaking newspaper), she had a meeting with the editor of a large magazine to discuss some content for her fashion blog, which she had been writing about trends and photographing herself. Being the opportunistic person that she was, she brought her portfolio.
The editor loved her work and asked her if she wanted to shoot a couture spread. It would be the first real shoot that she had ever done, with a studio, crew, and budget. After reflecting on the realities of the shoot, and how outrageously unprepared she was, she wrote back to the editor saying how wrong she was for the shoot and how green she was, politely declining his offer in a 4 paragraph, way too long, essay.
Clearly, he didn’t read the email because he wrote, “Ok great, I’ll link you with my editor”.
The dress she photographed eventually ended up being worn by Beyoncé on her album cover, and thus, her career began to grow. Not too long after, she was asked by another contact from the newspaper for a 3-day shoot in Bintan with supermodel Lily Cole for a resort.
A hop, skip and an all-expense-paid flight later, Lenne was on a paradise resort in Bintan with supermodel Lily Cole for a three-day photo shoot. While the concept sounded incredible, an inexperienced 22-year-old being flown out to a resort to shoot a supermodel could only be described as “objectively horrible” by Lenne.
Model Lily Cole right before falling into the water
The weather was overcast, and Lenne was too inexperienced to know how to deal with the weather, how to run a shoot or how to communicate with a supermodel. At one point, the client pointed to a rock in the middle of the ocean and said, “Let’s shoot there”. Reticent to go into the water with her equipment, but eager to please, she walked in with the team. I’m sure you can guess what happens when a rock and slippery moss in the middle of the ocean meshes with thousands of dollars worth of camera equipment.
Suffice to say, Lenne, camera, and dignity went under.
“TALK ABOUT HITTING ROCK BOTTOM…LITERALLY”
“I felt that I needed to eat chi ku (吃苦). It means to eat bitter in Mandarin. I needed to go through hardship, to learn and suffer. So I took all of the savings from my next shoot – $5,000 and moved to Japan for three months.”
She made the move to Japan where, while on a night out, she met the talent manager of Universal Music Group and showed him her portfolio at Karaoke. That chance encounter turned into a shoot for Bang and Olufsen. Another random encounter took place when she ran into an editor for Elle Japan at a Tommy Hilfiger party, and the editor set up a few shoots at Elle Girl Japan. And so it seems like the roundabouts of success that made up her future are anything but linear; chance encounters, random parties, always having a portfolio on her, and staying outside of her comfort zone.
“Youth is courage. 90 percent of the things I’m telling you, ignorance and youth got me so far.”
“I realized that if I wanted to make it in this industry, I needed to grow the fuck up. I needed to be more worldly, learn to talk to people.” Today, her approach to photography is undeniably militant. The story of her success becomes apparent not because of a series of lucky events, but because she has consistently put herself in challenging positions. For much of her early career, she was working for free for photo studios and magazines, photographing musicians and celebrities with no budget until she was able to build up relationships with the editors. “Editorial shoots are very rarely paid. Hustle for a bit until they NEED you.”
Nikolaj Coster Waldau for Esquire Singapore
The work she does is daring, engaging and refreshingly millennial, in the best sense of the word. One of her last projects was a photo piece standing up to the anti-LGBT movement in Singapore featuring a lesbian wedding which both taboo and illegal in the country. I asked Lenne what is her advice for anyone who would want to pursue photography and she said, “I spend more time outside of my comfort zone than inside”. But in order to really feel successful in the fashion world, she had to put herself with the best, and so she set her eyes on NYC.
The transition took over 75 cold emails to New York photo agencies for representation and over a dozen in-person meetings over a four day period. On the final day, Lenne was signed by ADB agency, where she was signed on the spot. It was another full year before she could get her visa to come and work in New York City.
“New York City has always been the fashion capital of the world. I knew that if I wanted to really make it, I had to come here”.
With a portfolio of work that has only expanded, we’re excited to see where Lenne will go. While most of her work is still based in Asia, she’s beginning to get her name out in NYC. Long gone are the stories of up and coming starving artists in NYC. The next generation is a budding pool of creatives and tastemakers, generating opportunities out of nothing and creating their own futures.
These are exciting times, indeed.
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Jordan Scott, 24, is the founder of idk tonight, a site that helps over 30,000 couples across NYC plan fun dates. Ciaooo! infiltrated the world of coupledom, and we got tips for some of the best advice for couples and how to navigate life after the swipe.
“There are a million apps and articles for single people. What about us couples?!”
Jordan Scott is fervent when she asks the question.
She’s a petite, cute, blonde with wide blue eyes and a massive Colgate smile reminiscent of a Southern beauty queen (ironically, she is from upstate New York which, some may say, is like the south of NY state). Her whole 5-foot frame shakes with passion, and she tells me the concept had been boggling her for so long that she wound up building a site entirely for couples to reinvigorate their dating lives. Today, idk tonight helps over 30,000 couples in NYC find fun, unique dates across all five boroughs, and this Fall, the team is gearing up to launch the first date discovery app for matching unique dates and events with couples.
The first time I meet Jordan, I write “warm like she grew up in a cul de sac with a dad who took the whole team for ice cream after Softball practice” in my notes. Admittedly, I wasn’t sure what to expect. We had only exchanged a few brief messages from the wildly popular @idktonight Instagram page. “A lot of people automatically assume I’m a man when they see the name Jordan”, she tells me. “I love to surprise them and go, Here I am! Why can’t the founder be a woman?!”
idk tonight is impressive. For a site that has only existed just under 2 years, its got a powerful following that has a niche hold on over 30,000 couples in NYC. The weekly newsletter (Tuesdays at 10 AM) is more than just a guide to fun dates, but a living, breathing document with a finger on the pulse of New York City. It also includes upcoming events, restaurant openings, and closings across all five boroughs. The site also features hundreds of curated guides, tried and tested by actual couples, like Tacos and Tequila, What to Do When You Have No Idea What to Do, and The Best Date Nights Incredibly Close to Subway Lines.
More than anything, idk tonight is a love story to New York City.
For Jordan, the original iteration ofidk tonight was an itinerary generator. An app would allow you to text a local expert for suggestions of where to go and what to see, and you’d get a plan of your own. “Within two months though, we learned very quickly it wasn’t going to work…but you live and you learn”, she says nonchalantly. “One night I made a Trello board of all the things I learned that went wrong, and I realized the one thing that made sense was that people wanted date ideas. We took off with idk tonight”.
Launched in September of 2017, Jordan started the company fresh off a position at CBS This Morning, “I realized while I was working that I didn’t want to be the producer behind the show, I wanted to be ON the show”. Armed with $20k in life savings and an idea, Jordan left her job and went on to launch what would become the first iteration of idk tonight. It wasn’t the first time she had pursued the idea of being a content mogul though, while just a journalism major from NYU, Jordan had already interned at all of thegreatest news and publication sites — Refinery29, NBC Nightly News, CBS This Morning, Cosmopolitan Magazine, NY1, and Yahoo!
Since then, the site has grown organically as a resource for couples on the lookout for a fun date, though anyone could use the site. Single people should use this for fun ideas as well. All across NYC, contributors write about their favorite dates in any given neighborhood – reaching broadly, from Bay Ridge to Washington Heights.
“We wanted to showcase all that is amazing in NYC, as well. Everyone’s looking for the hidden gem. How about going 2 extra stops on the subway and finding it?”
We asked Jordan for some advice on dating. If you want to see her favorite date in the West Village, click HERE.
Q. What’s the Best Advice for a Couple to Keep Things Interesting?
A. Surprise each other. It shows you’re trying. And it feels really good to be with someone who tries. Nick (Jordan’s fiancé) and I do this thing called “Wednesday Surprise” where one of us texts the other in the middle of the day a location, or subway stop, to meet after work. You just have to go. Could be a cupcake shop, could be a Broadway show. We hope to have a feature in the app that mimics this exact phenomenon.
Q. Ok, what about the single people?
A. So clichè, but the universe will throw someone at you when you’re feeling best about yourself and couldn’t be less interested in finding a romantic partner. When Nick and I met at Exchange Bar in Gramercy (now diseased for probably 100 reasons) we were both blissfully happy in our singledom. Another thing—as soon as you go on another date with someone else and realize you would 100% rather be with whoever your version of Nick is, and everyone else is a waste of time, you’re in it.
Q. How does idk tonight work differently?
A. I think where we’re different is we’re about keeping couples good. Keeping them satisfied and helping them enjoy each other in ways they maybe wouldn’t otherwise discover. Helping them rediscover and remember why they’re together. It’s not as newsworthy, but most of life is what happens after you find the right person. We’re here for that main part.
You can follow Jordan at idk tonight to see more of her story and stay tuned for the new project. If you’d like to test out our beta this fall, do it at idktonight.com/future.